On Valentine’s Day, people show love in all kinds of ways. A bouquet of flowers. A small box of chocolate. A thoughtful note that says, “I love you.”

When was the last time you showed yourself that same love and kindness? You’ve accomplished amazing things. Maybe you’ve traveled to beautiful places, took on new hobbies, volunteered for a cause you care about, added to “family recipes,” raised children, pursued a career or reached meaningful goals. Maybe your accomplishment is simply getting through the day. 

No matter how big or small it feels, and whether you have someone to call your valentine or not, why not celebrate yourself on the day known for love? 

Self-compassion is the simple practice of treating yourself the way you would treat someone you care about. Research links self-compassion with better mental health, and self-care can reduce stress and support well-being. 

Treating yourself does not have to be expensive or complicated. If you’re not sure where to start, choose one small act of care:

• Say something kind. Perhaps you don’t need a long love letter. Write yourself a short note about what you’re proud of, or place a hand on your arm and repeat: “I am enough. I have done good things in my life. I deserve happiness.”

• Do something soothing. Snuggle up with a good book with a pet by your side. Take a scenic drive or short walk and soak in nature, dance in the living room to a favorite record or take an afternoon nap, guilt-free.

• Create a little brightness. Pick up flowers or a small plant, use your “good” lotion or perfume or treat yourself to your favorite sweet from a local shop.

• Reach for connection. Schedule a call with grandkids or an old friend or look at an old photo and write a note of gratitude to the person you were then.

Valentine’s Day is about love, joy and happiness. This year, let some of that love land on you. ■

Victoria Pincelli, BSW, is a Master of Social Work student at the University of Colorado Colorado Springs. UCCS Aging Center graduate students are available to make presentations on topics in aging to community groups. For more information, call 719-255-8002 or email [email protected]. To learn more about the UCCS Aging Center, visit AgingCenter.uccs.edu.  

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